We do things different than male business owners, we make things harder than they need to be at times and sometimes we wonder why our male counterparts make things as hard as they do, when us ladies think it's just so easy.
We take things personally too much and will have countless sleepless nights because of something one of our customers says, or because of some business decision we have to make.
We tend to make friends with most of our staff, customers, suppliers and even competition. We see our business as another child we raise. We don't quite trust any of it's babysitters to look after it, no matter how good they prove to be. We after all are it's mother and we know what's best for our baby don't we?: We take constructive critisism as a personal insult, we take unhappy customers or staff as a personal insult.
But at the same time we glow with pride when someone loves "our baby the business" and comments on all the wonderful things it can do. We love talking about our businesses as we love talking about our children.
We nurture and coddle our business, we scold ourselves and get that mother guilt-- I know the moms out there know exactly what that mother guild feels like-- when the business doesn't do something we thought it could do.
Things like staff issures become really tough because we all make friends with our staff and even when we as the owner know that something isn't right we have a horrible time telling our staff member that because now we've connected at a friendship level instead of employee/employer level.
Bankers, accountants,even the friendly voice on the phone that wants to talk to accounts payable, they all became our friends and mentors
That's what women do, we share, we mentor each other, we nurture. But it makes it so hard to deal with such situations as people coming through the door of our place of business asking for sponsorshops and gifts for the about the umptheenth good cause that day. How do you say no to a friend, and it is such a good cause,
Issues like staffing, I've had to make some really tough decsions this summer and I still get sick about it when I think about them. They are my friends, my mentors and I had to be a gasp employer and think of my business baby first instead of my friends.
Do male business owners deal with these same things? From where I'm stitting they keep friends and business relationships nicely seperated, or are they just good at pretending they do?
They say "no" much easier when they get asked for sponsorshops and prizes they see the bottomline much clearer. do we rule with our hearts more than our heads, unlike the guys?
Do they not see their business as their baby, and therefor keep it seperated so much easier?
I don't want to change things, I love working with and for my big network of "friends" but at times of tough decisions, and situations in which I should be saying NO, I'd like to have a little more seperation between heart and head.
We take things personally too much and will have countless sleepless nights because of something one of our customers says, or because of some business decision we have to make.
We tend to make friends with most of our staff, customers, suppliers and even competition. We see our business as another child we raise. We don't quite trust any of it's babysitters to look after it, no matter how good they prove to be. We after all are it's mother and we know what's best for our baby don't we?: We take constructive critisism as a personal insult, we take unhappy customers or staff as a personal insult.
But at the same time we glow with pride when someone loves "our baby the business" and comments on all the wonderful things it can do. We love talking about our businesses as we love talking about our children.
We nurture and coddle our business, we scold ourselves and get that mother guilt-- I know the moms out there know exactly what that mother guild feels like-- when the business doesn't do something we thought it could do.
Things like staff issures become really tough because we all make friends with our staff and even when we as the owner know that something isn't right we have a horrible time telling our staff member that because now we've connected at a friendship level instead of employee/employer level.
Bankers, accountants,even the friendly voice on the phone that wants to talk to accounts payable, they all became our friends and mentors
That's what women do, we share, we mentor each other, we nurture. But it makes it so hard to deal with such situations as people coming through the door of our place of business asking for sponsorshops and gifts for the about the umptheenth good cause that day. How do you say no to a friend, and it is such a good cause,
Issues like staffing, I've had to make some really tough decsions this summer and I still get sick about it when I think about them. They are my friends, my mentors and I had to be a gasp employer and think of my business baby first instead of my friends.
Do male business owners deal with these same things? From where I'm stitting they keep friends and business relationships nicely seperated, or are they just good at pretending they do?
They say "no" much easier when they get asked for sponsorshops and prizes they see the bottomline much clearer. do we rule with our hearts more than our heads, unlike the guys?
Do they not see their business as their baby, and therefor keep it seperated so much easier?
I don't want to change things, I love working with and for my big network of "friends" but at times of tough decisions, and situations in which I should be saying NO, I'd like to have a little more seperation between heart and head.
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