The best conversations take place in the car in the dark. Two people or an entire family, facing forward staring into the dark with no place to go and nothing better to do.
In the dark and facing forward, not staring at each other it much easier to be honest and open. No one can question facial expressions or body language, that you think you might have just glimpsed. Awkward pauses aren't awkward in the dark. Drives are good for soul bearing experiences and conversations. No one gets distracted by TV , door bells or phones ringing, food in the fridge or household chores. You have no choice but to finish the conversation you start. Silence in the dark when you're driving with a good friend, partner or child is one of the most enjoyable times also. Listening to the radio, each lost in your own thoughts. Again no awkwardness needed, it's not like you're sitting across a table from each other ,looking in each others faces. Silence is totally allowable in a dark car in fact it's a wonderful thing.
Some of my best memories are of road trips taken with the kids when they were small. Hours spent in too close quarters with mom dad, son and daughter and a friend each. 4 twelve or eleven year olds should drive anyone insane. But after the first half hour and the necessary grumbling about space, heat and stinky feet they would all turn into hilarious comics, wonderful philosophers or awesome business planners. We have laughed until we could hardly drive anymore because of one liners that an eleven year can come up with. Rey and I have stared in awe at each other because of something so wise that was said by a twelve year old, that we said when we grow up we want to be just like him or her.
Things like that don't happen that often when your in your living room and there is Wii to play, movies to watch and facebook to check,. They are much more likely to happen when you are driving somewhere in close quarters with nothing for entertainment except each other
I miss the days of loading up the kids and going for a Sunday drive, or going to Edmonton or wherever on the spur of the moment. Life got so busy and hectic and we're all connected to our outside world at all times via cellphones and laptops. Very seldom is there a chance to just sit and listen to each other, and just be entertained by each others company. Life seemed so much simpler without our communication devices, but yet try and live without them. I feel absolutely naked without my iPhone or laptop close to me at all times,
I guess, times they are a changing and I now better understand when my parents speak of the good old simpler days
I wonder what our kids will call the good old simpler days when they are at our age?
In the dark and facing forward, not staring at each other it much easier to be honest and open. No one can question facial expressions or body language, that you think you might have just glimpsed. Awkward pauses aren't awkward in the dark. Drives are good for soul bearing experiences and conversations. No one gets distracted by TV , door bells or phones ringing, food in the fridge or household chores. You have no choice but to finish the conversation you start. Silence in the dark when you're driving with a good friend, partner or child is one of the most enjoyable times also. Listening to the radio, each lost in your own thoughts. Again no awkwardness needed, it's not like you're sitting across a table from each other ,looking in each others faces. Silence is totally allowable in a dark car in fact it's a wonderful thing.
Some of my best memories are of road trips taken with the kids when they were small. Hours spent in too close quarters with mom dad, son and daughter and a friend each. 4 twelve or eleven year olds should drive anyone insane. But after the first half hour and the necessary grumbling about space, heat and stinky feet they would all turn into hilarious comics, wonderful philosophers or awesome business planners. We have laughed until we could hardly drive anymore because of one liners that an eleven year can come up with. Rey and I have stared in awe at each other because of something so wise that was said by a twelve year old, that we said when we grow up we want to be just like him or her.
Things like that don't happen that often when your in your living room and there is Wii to play, movies to watch and facebook to check,. They are much more likely to happen when you are driving somewhere in close quarters with nothing for entertainment except each other
I miss the days of loading up the kids and going for a Sunday drive, or going to Edmonton or wherever on the spur of the moment. Life got so busy and hectic and we're all connected to our outside world at all times via cellphones and laptops. Very seldom is there a chance to just sit and listen to each other, and just be entertained by each others company. Life seemed so much simpler without our communication devices, but yet try and live without them. I feel absolutely naked without my iPhone or laptop close to me at all times,
I guess, times they are a changing and I now better understand when my parents speak of the good old simpler days
I wonder what our kids will call the good old simpler days when they are at our age?
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